“There is no shame and to talk about it, isn’t a sign of weakness… it is actually one of the stronge
Chloe Bellerby is a keen footballer, who recently walked from Leeds to London for Mind the Mental Health charity.
When asked about what mental health means to her, Chloe said that “people often disregard mental health yet I think it’s just as, if not more important than physical health. I started campaigning/fundraising 6 months ago, in the hope that my struggles with depression, what I can only describe as a living nightmare, could help someone in the same boat. Our mental health determines how we think, how we feel and how we act and often, people don’t understand that when struggling with poor mental health, people’s behaviours change in ways that can make an individual unrecognisable”.
“It doesn’t matter who you are, what social class you’re from, your age or your gender, any one can suffer from a mental health problem. There is no shame and to talk about it, isn’t a sign of weakness… it is actually one of the strongest things you can do”.
In previous post we touched upon mental health in young people and the support that is widely available through various charities, support groups and services. However, we acknowledge and understand that support needs to be tailored to each young person that may be living with a mental health diagnosis.
So we asked Chloe what support she found had the most help in her journey to living well with the day to day impact of her depression.
Chloe said that that support she found most helpful didn’t actually come from a health care professional.
Quoting Chloe directly she says “I tried counselling for a couple of months but due to being conscious they were getting paid to sit there and listen, that they didn’t really care made me refuse to attend to any sessions. The best help I ever received/continue to receive is through a PE teacher form school. 2 years ago, the battle I was facing alone actually became a battle I was facing with someone else. He was the one person that managed to get into my head and for the first time in my life, actually opened up to. I remember him telling me that he was going to stand by me through it all, whether I liked it or not. That meant the world to me”.
Chloe’s advice to anyone struggling to manage their mental health is “talk to somebody. I bottled my emotions away for 6 years and it led to me laying in a hospital bed after trying to take my own life. talking about it reduces the weight on one’s shoulders and often can help rationalise the thoughts one is experiencing. There is NO shame in talking about it. Everyone struggles, so to some degree can understand the feeling of not being okay. But the main message I would get across is, reach out and talk about it. It’s okay not to be okay”.
“one of the things I found when first been diagnosed with depression was the guilt and shame I felt. I felt guilty because I had such a good life, amazing parents, I’d just achieved a soccer scholarship to the states and had so many supportive friends – what did I have to be depressed about? I hated the fact that I had a mental illness and felt embarrassed by it. But one of the main things I would say is, mental illness can affect any one at any time”.
From behalf of all those involved with IFightFor I want to thank you Chloe for talking to me about her Mental Health journey!
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Please respond that if have concerns or need someone to talk to please speak to your GP! Alongside this here are some useful support services that can be accessed if you have any other concerns, worries or would like additional support...
ChildLine- Is available to anyone under 19 in the UK with any issue they’re going through. Whether it’s something big or small, our trained counsellors are here to support you. Number: 0800 1111 CALM- Is the Campaign Against Living Miserably, for men aged 15-35. Website: www.thecalmzone.net OCD Action - Support for people with obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD). Includes information on treatment and online resources. Phone: 0845 390 6232 (Mon-Fri, 9.30am-5pm) Website: www.ocdaction.org.uk YoungMinds- Information on child and adolescent mental health. Services for parents and professionals. Phone: Parents' helpline 0808 802 5544 (Mon-Fri, 9.30am-4pm) Website: www.youngminds.org.uk SANE - Emotional support, information and guidance for people affected by mental illness, their families and carers. SANEline: 0300 304 7000 (daily, 4.30-10.30pm) Textcare: comfort and care via text message, sent when the person needs it most: http://www.sane.org.uk/textcare Peer support forum: www.sane.org.uk/supportforum Website: www.sane.org.uk/support